Men can have sex toys, too. No one bats an eye at a woman having a dildo or other sex toys, but the moment a man has a sex toy, it’s taboo. And the one sex toy that men like the most is a Fleshlight.
Now, if you don’t know what a Fleshlight is, we’ll explain everything.
And I’ll show you how to make your very own toy, too. We don’t recommend going the DIY path because it’s just not the same, and you can hurt yourself in some cases. With that said, let’s find out what these toys are – and why you’ll want one for yourself.
What Is a Fleshlight?

A fleshlight is a handheld vagina. This is a product that looks and feels like the real thing, What’s really interesting is that these toys are often modeled after the vaginas of some of the most famous pornstars.
Whose vagina can you enjoy?
- Riley Reid
- Stoya
- Nicole Aniston
- Nikki Benz
- Alexis Texas
- Jenna Haze
And there are a lot more to choose from, too. The best fleshlight is the one that helps you boost your stamina and endurance.
There are specific models made for stamina, and this is what has helped many men in the bedroom. A person that ejaculates too fast or can’t keep it up is the ideal candidate for a flesh light.
Since these toys are at your disposal at all times, you can practice and learn how to prolong your orgasm, or how to last longer.
How to Use a Fleshlight
Whether you’re using a homemade fleshlight or the real thing, you’ll be using them much in the same way.
First and foremost, you want to use this not just to get off, but also for real situations. You can learn how to stay harder for longer, and this will transition into the bedroom where you can have a lot more fun when your stamina is out of this world.
But, there are a few things that you’ll want to consider, too:
- Cleanliness: You need to clean a DIY fleshlight and the real thing after every use. This can be done with a little warm or hot water. You’ll want to make sure everything is clean and dry before putting it away.
- Storage: Always store your toy somewhere that is clean and dry. If you just leave it out in the open, it can grow bacteria, which wouldn’t end well for you.
And when it comes to using this toy, it’s a whole lot like real sex. Some people enjoy it in the bedroom, bathroom or all over the home – it doesn’t matter where you use it. What matters most is how you use it.
When using the real thing, it’s recommended that you warm it up with some warm water, this is also recommended for your DIY model.
Since this isn’t the real thing, your toy won’t get wet the more you play with it. You’ll need to apply a generous amount of lube to yourself before getting started. If you don’t use lube, you’ll find that it starts to burn and you may even remove some of your skin in the process – ouch.
If you choose to use a real fleshlight, you can use lube to ensure a nice fit.
You’ll also be able to adjust the tightness using the cap to make the sleeve tighter or looser as necessary.
Alright, let’s get down to what you’re really interested in: how to make your own fleshlight.
DIY Fleshlights: How to Make Your Own Fleshlight 101
You’re not going to be able to make the real thing, but you can still make something similar that will allow you to effectively have sex with a toy and boost your stamina in the process. We’re going to cover a few methods that have worked for other people.
Sponge and Cup Method
This method is pretty simple, and you’ll be able to enjoy a few fun sessions with this model. The items that you’ll need to get started are:
- 1 large glass (canister or container)
- 2 -4 sponges (not brillo pads)
- 1 latex glove
And keep in mind that you need some sort of container that is long enough to fit your rod, or most of it.
Now, you’ll put the sponges into your container horizontally. This will make it look like there is a slit at the top of the sponges. This is a slit that will act as the vagina. Always make sure you use new sponges and a clean glass to begin.
After adding as many sponges as you need, pull out your rubber gloves and stuff it into the “slit” leaving the opening up top for your penis to enter. You’ll be gliding against a rubber glove, so it will feel a lot like sex with a condom on.
Apply a lot of lube to yourself and the rubber glove, and give it a try.
Note: If you don’t add lube, you’ll create a lot of friction, giving your little guy a burn in the process.
Corn Starch and Water
If you feel like playing chemist, you can make your own fleshlight with a little science. This method requires:
- 1 large glass (no metal)
- 100g of corn starch
- 100g of water
So, what you’re going to do is add everything into a glass starting with the cornstarch first. Once everything has been added, it’s time to mix up the ingredients thoroughly. After mixing well, add 100g more of water and mix it up again.
Place the glass into the microwave to heat it up for 30 seconds.
The mixture should solidify. Make a small hole in the top of the substance and place it into the microwave again. Keep in mind that this hole should be made with an object slightly smaller than the girth of your penis.
Once out of the microwave, place the object you made the hole in ¾ of the way deep in the cup.
Place the cup and object into the refrigerator. After an hour, remove the glass, remove the stick and slide out your fleshlight.
This method will feel a lot like the real thing, but you’ll need to use lube still and will want to clean it often. I found that these work very well, but they’re not meant for the long-term in most cases.
What this does is help you make a jelly mold that you can use for your pleasure.
We encourage you to read fleshlight reviews and to try the real thing before trying to make your own. The DIY method may be a little cheaper, but it’s filled with potential risks and won’t be as durable and long lasting. And you won’t be having sex with a true textured vagina.